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3 Ways People Deal With Failure
What separates people who enjoy success from the majority who end up never getting what they want is how we respond to failure. It is what we do about failure that makes a big difference.
There are three ways in which people respond to failure.
Pattern 1: Give Excuses, Lay Blame & Give up
What do some people do when they don't get what they want? They will start giving themselves lots of excuses and blame everything and everyone around them. They say things like, 'it's not fair', 'I'm just not smart enough' 'It's just too difficult', 'I'm too young' or 'I'm too old', 'I just didn't have the luck', 'the depressed economy affected me'.
Feeling helpless and frustrated, this first group will stop taking action and give up! They will resign themselves to their goal being out of reach and live a life of mediocrity.
Pattern 2: Keep Trying the Same thing Over and Over Again
These are the people who have a lot more determination than the first. When they don't get their outcome, they will not quit. They will get themselves to take action again. The motto of this group is, 'I failed because I did not try hard enough' 'If I keep trying, I will eventually succeed'. So they keep taking action, putting in more time, energy and effort. No matter how many times they fail, they just keep trying harder and harder.
Will they eventually achieve their goals? It depends. If they set small, incremental goals, they may, with enough time and effort eventually succeed. However, if they set big and exceptional goals, like becoming the top in their field, they will never be successful by just trying again and again. They may experience a better result, but they won't reach the goals they desire. Why?
Because, although they keep taking action, they do not change their strategy. If you keep using the same approach, you are going to keep getting the same result. I have seen so many professionals and businessmen repeat this limiting pattern. I know many businessmen who fail in their business only to start again and do the same thing. They keep putting in ads that don't work, they hire ineffective people or they use the same business model.
Pattern 3: Get Feedback, Change Strategy and Take Action until you Succeed.
So what is the pattern that all successful individuals exhibit? When they don't achieve their goals, they don't think of it as failure. Instead, they perceive it as feedback. Either feedback that the strategy they used was ineffective or that they did not take enough action. They then use this feedback to immediately change their strategy and take action again.
If they still don't succeed, they will get more feedback, change their strategy and take action again. They keep repeating this process until they get what they want. They do whatever it takes. So, remember, every time you don't get what you want, it is life giving you feedback. It is this continuous feedback you need to help you adjust your approach until you hit your target.
Thomas Edison took almost 10,000 attempts before inventing the light bulb. When asked how he did it, he said that he had to first find 9,999 strategies of how not to invent the light bulb. He then used this feedback to change his strategy until he got what he wanted.
Successful people re-look and change their strategy whenever they encounter 'failure'. They understand that failure is feedback. Understand this principle and you will overcome failure and achieve success in no time at all.
Adam Khoo Learning Technologies Group Pte Ltd
27 Dec 2006
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The One Path To Your Success
The one path to your success is understanding this.
"We reap what we sow"
When a farmer sows seeds in his field he realizes its the work he does now which he'll benefit from later.
He will not reap a harvest unless he sows the seed.
Success naturally follows the same principle. Let me show you...
You sow a thought and it reaps you an idea. You sow an idea and it reaps you an action. You sow an action and it reaps you a habit. You sow a habit and it reaps you a character. You sow a character and it reaps you a destiny.
Do you see the natural progression? The one path to your success depends on you following these principles. What you do RIGHT NOW you benefit from later.
Remember you don't have to get it right, you just have to get it going! Maybe its making a decision you've been putting off for too long. Maybe its just tidying up a room so you can work in an uncluttered environment. Maybe its writing down just one thing you will do tomorrow (as soon as you get up) which is a step towards the future you want.
Success needs to be cultivated like a farmer does with his crops.
We reap what we sow.
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The Law of Attraction
A man lived by the side of the road and sold hot dogs. He was hard of hearing so he had no radio. He had trouble with his eyes so he read no newspaper, nor did he watch TV. But, he sold great hot dogs. He put a sign up on the highway telling how great they were. He stood by the side of the road and cried, “Hey, You, want to buy a great hot dog?” And people came and they bought. So, he increased his meat and bun order. He bought a bigger stove to take care of his trade. Then one day his son came home from college to help him. His son said, “Dad, haven’t you heard the news about the recession? The economy is really bad. The unemployment situation is terrible. The energy situation is worse.”
Whereupon the hot dog man thought, “Well my son’s been to college. He reads the newspapers and listens to the radio, he ought to know.” So the father cut down on his meat and bun order. He took down his advertising signs. He no longer bothered to stand by the side of the road and yelled, “Wanna buy my hot dogs?” And his hot dog sales fell almost over night. “You’re right son.” The hot dog man said to his boy. “We certainly are in the middle of a bad recession!”
This parable is an illustration of these words of Dr. Ernest Holmes in Chapter 18 of the Science of Mind:
As God’s thought makes worlds, and peoples them with living things, so our thought makes our world and peoples it with our experiences. By the activity of our thought, things come into our life and we are limited only because we have not known the Truth. We have thought that outside things controlled us, when all the time we have had that within which could have changed everything and given us freedom from bondage.
What is that within us that can give us freedom? The creative Power of God operating through The Law of Attraction, which we bring into Action by our thoughts.
This idea is not new. It has been espoused throughout the ages.
The Buddha told us:
All that we are is the result of what we have thought.
In Proverbs 23:7, we read:
For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.
It is done unto you, as you believe. And - As ye sow so shall ye reap.
What we expect, we find.
The philosopher Virgil said:
They can because they think they can.
William Shakespeare wrote:
Our doubts are our traitors.
Contemporary writer Eknath Easwaran wrote:
We begin to resemble and actually become whatever we give our attention to.
Abraham-Hicks: When you think a little thought of something you are wanting, by Law of Attraction that thought grows larger and larger and more and more powerful. When you think a thought of something you are not wanting, that Law of Attraction adds unto it and it grows larger and larger also. So the larger it grows, the more power it draws unto it, then the more certain you are to receive the experience, you see.
The interesting thing about these Laws is that they are -- even if you do not understand that they are -- affecting your experience, even in your ignorance of them.
The law of attraction is definitely not a new concept - but statements of Truth -- Truth that can set us free -- or hold us in bondage depending on what we do with them!
There is no power in the universe but ourselves that can free us. Someone may help us on the road to realization, but we must bring ourselves to the place in mind where there is no misfortune, no calamity, no accident, no trouble, no confusion; where there is nothing but plenty, peace, power, Life and Truth.
At all times we are either drawing things to us or pushing them away. In the average individual, this process goes on without his or her knowing it, but ignorance of the law does not change its results.
Dr. Toni LaMotta
14 Mar 2007
Dr. Toni LaMotta has spoken internationally, authored several books and numerous articles and has served as a consultant, and trainer to a variety of corporations. Her experiences range from being a high school teacher to working with some of the top companies, associations, and organizations in the world. She served as a Catholic nun and pastoral associate for 16 years before discovering New Thought.
She is currently the Minister of a Spiritual community in Sarasota, Florida. Her company, “InLightened Enterprises” provides messages that are provocative. Challenging your mind and inspiring your heart. They help to illumine false beliefs that may be barriers to spiritual growth and give insight to see your own truth. Get more from Dr. Toni at http://www.freeinspirationalmessages.com
Her fascinating life journey has led to a depth of compassion, personal growth and understanding, and love for the ministerial calling that is truly inspiring.
She holds a Doctorate in Religious Studies as well as a Doctor of Divinity degree from Emerson Theological Institute; 3 Masters Degrees in Pastoral Ministry, Adult Education, and Mathematics; and a B.S. in Mathematics. Toni did her New Thought studies through both the Unity Church and United Church of Religious Science. She is also studying to be an ordained healer with Ron Roth and has the ability to transfer Deeksha energy for enlightenment. Toni also has a strong business background and also spent 10 years as an adjunct faculty member for the University of Phoenix School of Management & Business both online and at their San Diego campuses.
To contact Dr. Toni for a keynote talk or workshop for your organization go to http://www.tonilamotta.com